I’m a Veteran With PTSD. The Medication I Take Makes Dating Difficult.

She was a cat lover with cotton-candy-colored hair and obnoxious tastes in music but similar politics to mine. While texting on Tinder, she suggested I might get to play with her kitty. We agreed that we would take her cat out to the park some time but that we would start with dinner and a drink. There were no other hints to me that anything thrilling might happen beyond my riding my motorcycle from Denver to Boulder for the meeting.

Sitting together at an Italian restaurant, we got past the cat conversation and progressed to politics and music, jokes and laughter. We were communicating freely and enjoying each other’s company — pretty much everything I wanted out of a first date.

As the waitress picked up the check, my date invited me back to her place. I went. I still didn’t think anything was going to happen until we were going to settle in to watch a movie and she changed her clothes right in front of me.

She asked to see my tattoos — I’ve got a lot of ink, even for a Marine — so that happened too. But not everything happened, and probably not as much as she expected. I explained about the injuries, the PTSD, the medication. She was nice about it. We eagerly agreed on a second date. “We should do this again, and finish what we started,” she said. “If we don’t, it’ll bug me. Like I’m not hot enough for you, or something.” I told her she was gorgeous and that next time would be better.  more

The 30 Most Disturbing Human Experiments in History

Disturbing human experiments aren’t something the average person thinks too much about. Rather, the progress achieved in the last 150 years of human history is an accomplishment we’re reminded of almost daily. Achievements made in fields like biomedicine and psychology mean that we no longer need to worry about things like deadly diseases or masturbation as a form of insanity. For better or worse, we have developed more effective ways to gather information, treat skin abnormalities, and even kill each other. But what we are not constantly reminded of are the human lives that have been damaged or lost in the name of this progress. The following is a list of the 30 most disturbing human experiments in history.  more

South Africa Health Minister reportedly bans doggy style during sex, says it causes teenage pregnancies and back pain for adults

While this is a little off topic for this blog, I just felt it was so absurd (and insane) that I had to share:

South Africa Health Minister, Aaron Motsoaledi has cautioned South African men to desist from the “doggy style” saying this lovemaking style is leading cause of teenage pregnancies, cancer, stroke and back pains for adults.

According to Aaron Motsoaledi, after six years of arduous research, he found out that one gets overworked during sex when one is standing or kneeling and overloads the veins in the legs which ultimately causes back pains and a stroke.  more

Sexual Obsessions in OCD

How Sexual Obsessions Differ From Sexual Fantasies

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is characterized by compulsions (an uncontrollable impulse to perform an act, often repetitively) and obsessions(the inability to stop thinking about a certain topic or image without anxiety).

Within the realm of obsessions, a person with OC may become fixated on thoughts of violence, aggression, contamination, or even religion. Among the most troubling, however, are sexual obsessions.  more

Mental illness, Addiction and Digital Infidelity

Fifty years ago, I was six years old.  My family, like many families of the day, subscribed to Life magazine.  On the cover of the magazine for the week of September 16, 1966 was a picture of Sophia Loren.  The Hollywood starlet was portrayed wearing a black see-through lacy dress that covered all the necessary parts, and covered all the necessary standards for 1966.  But the picture left an image upon my brain that I can easily recall to this day.

Fifty years later, digital pornographic images are now easily accessible.  The Internet has made it possible for thousands of images and videos to be accessed within seconds.  The Internet has made it available for instant digital infidelity to occur.  Such images and encounters can easily be accessed on any smartphone, tablet, and computer.  more

Why, as a woman, I love watching porn

Porn is that age-old subject that seems to endlessly divide people – most notably women. Some call it misogynistic and out-dated, others can’t get enough of it.

Myself? I love a bit of porn. And not your ‘feminised’ version either, but your bog standard, easily available, Red Tube smut. It turns me on — both with a partner and on my own.

There is still a stigma attached to women watching porn, with much of the criticism aimed at the banal narratives of your average skin flick – we’re ‘supposed’ to enjoy things which are more mentally arousing.  more

11 Signs You May Be Addicted to Porn

Pornography addiction means being compulsively addicted to pornographic material despite the negative mental, physical and social effects. It is a behavioral addiction like compulsive internet use or cybersex addiction. Although diagnostic criteria does not exist for this disorder, it is seen as a compulsive disorder. Like pathological gambling or internet addiction, porn addicts see a decrease in the ability to stop, an increase in use over time, as well as adverse mental effects.

Internet addiction is particularly dangerous due to its accessibility and never ending supply. One survey found that of 9,265 participants, 1% of Internet users are clearly addicted to cybersex and 17% of users meet criteria for problematic sexual compulsivity.  more

Men have better sex with emotionally unstable women

Men have better sex with women who are emotionally unstable, a study has revealed.
And women prefer men who are less agreeable but pay attention to detail, according to the German survey of a thousand people.
We already know that a person’s perception of how compatible they are with their partner makes for a great sex life.
But until now, how someone’s personality influenced another’s sex life had not been widely studied.

Lead researcher Julia Velten and her colleagues interviewed each volunteer about their sex lives, personality and sexual function.  more